Didn't See That Coming

The first night that Cody spent in his new room, Lily slept with Jace.  They were up late with friends and we knew they'd get to sleep faster since Lily was whining.  The 2nd night, Lily again slept in Jace's room but this time on Cody's old bed instead of in the same bed as Jace.  At about 1:00 am, she came into our room and crawled into bed with us.  An hour later, Jace came and wanted to get in bed with us but there was no room.  Ray & I were really tired so Ray got annoyed and told him to go back to bed.  Jace rarely gets up during the night so I had a feeling he really needed us and while Ray was taking Lily to bed, I went to check on Jace.  He was sobbing.  Lily ended up waking while Ray was carrying her back to bed so he just put her in bed with Jace again and I laid by both of them for about 20 minutes.

Last night was the 3rd night for Cody to be in his new room.  He's doing great with it and didn't even have Rascal with him last night.  However, when it came time for bed, Jace started sobbing again.  Its really rare for him to cry like that and he finally spilled out that he wanted Cody back in his room.  He didn't want Lily, Rascal, or to go sleep in Cody's new room.  He just wanted Cody back.  It totally broke my heart.  He hadn't expressed any concern about Cody's upcoming move downstairs and I'd been too worried about Cody & me to consider how he might feel.  They've shared a room since Jace was born so it really should have dawned on us that it could be an issue.

First, I let Jace pick out a book for me to read him.  He ended up picking a novel so I said we'd read 2 chapters and then one more chapter each night.  We also let him have Rascal for the night.  After those chapters were read, he started crying again.  I laid down with him for awhile until I thought he was asleep but the moment I got up, he was upset again.  Then, Ray came in and sang and played guitar for quite awhile.  He thought Jace was asleep but he got upset when Ray left.  Jace is usually the first to sleep at night between the kids and it was now nearing 11 pm and we were getting tired & cranky ourselves.  We finally just had to initiate some tough love.  (It was like having a toddler again).  Jace's room is the original master bedroom in our home so it opens into the master bath, which opens into our walk-in closet, and then our bedroom.  We left all the doors open so we could talk back and forth, if needed.  He finally went to sleep.

At 1:30 am, he woke up.  I went in and laid with him for about 15 minutes.  The minute I left, he was up crying again.  I said I'd stand in the door for 5 minutes but that was it.  Once again, tough love was initiated.  I told him if he woke up after 5 am, he could crawl in bed with us.  I was amazed that he slept until 7 without waking up.  Of course, he did remember this morning that I had promised a sleepover and a new Webkinz if he did well at night.  He hadn't agreed to those ideas at the time so we'll have to work out the agreement.  If anybody has other ideas, I'm open to them.  If not, please pray that each night goes better.  I hate to see him hurting so much.